The other night we were at your big brother’s band concert. You were sitting on my lap when suddenly your baby brother needed me to take him.  Your Grandmother jokingly said something about the middle child.  

At the time I didn’t think much of it, but several days later for some reason I  keep thinking about “the forgotten middle child”. Every time I look at you I think about that.  I promise you that you will never be the forgotten middle child . 

Right now it may seem like that’s an impossible promise, but its not.  I know sometimes my attention to unbalanced . Your baby brother is only a baby so his needs are great,  just like yours were when you were a baby.  But someday just as your needs changed his will too. That doesn’t mean I’m putting you on hold.  I’ll find ways to make sure you don’t feel forgotten . 

Doing this for you feels harder than doing it for your big brother .  He’s a “big kid”. Talking to him about his day,  a special outting with Dad , or picking him up something special at the store seems to do the trick for him.  He had much longer time being the baby than you did, so we try hard to make sure he knows you guys aren’t hours replacement . 

Making you not feel replaced seems so much more complicated .  You were barely two when your baby brother came along . You will probably never remember a time before him.  Sometimes you seem like you want me all to yourself,  and when you get it you ask where the baby is.  My last attempt to take you out alone failed because you wanted your baby brother to come too. You’re too good of a sister for your own good. 

I may not have all the answers now but you will never ever new my forgotten middle child .  I look forward to to “girl time ” with you some day.  I know you are in a tough position .  Your big brother will do so many of the firsts, your baby brother is the baby of the family.  But you my dear are a force of nature, you make yourself known and I love that about you.  You will be my unforgettable middle child.